Frances M. McCrory-Meservy
False expectations are the
biggest cause of anger.
If you stop and think
back on your life, you will realize that the times you were angry was when
you expected something you did not receive.
Rarely is a broken promise
the reason for false expectations. It does happen though and when it does we
are supposed to forgive them. If we can't forgive them then we should ask
God to forgive them through us/for us. Forgiveness erases anger instantly.
Most of our expectations
are drawn by our own paradime of what should be and should not be. We don't
base it on reality and therefore our own thinking is the root cause of our
anger. The person we are angry with usually do not even know why we are
angry. And it does not hurt them at all. It's our own private cancer that
eats at our mental and physical health.
If you know someone is
forgetful, do not expect them to remember. If you know someone is slow, do
not expect them to hurry or be fast.
The ETA for a train, bus,
taxi, ship or aircraft is past and you are in a hurry. Why did you expect it
to be on time? We are late because of weather, mechanical difficulties,
accidents and other things. Why do we expect everyone else to be on time?
If you know someone is a
liar, do not expect them to tell the truth. Take what they say with a grain
of salt and wait for the truth.
If you know someone who is
on drugs, do not expect him/her to be honest. Drug addicts are controlled by
the drugs they take and will lie, cheat and steal to get the money needed
for the drugs. I don't care how much you love them, you can not trust them.
Lock up your valuables.
If you know someone who is
grumpy, do not expect them to be cheerful. Do not expect a negative person
to be positive.
Slow to anger is when you
start to get angry, you stop and evaluate why you are getting angry. Is it
false expectations or a real reason. Even if it is a real reason, is there
anything you can do about it? Will anger make it better? In the end we have
to be quick to forgive for our own sake.
During the process of
forgiving, Satan will whisper in your ear saying, "He hurt you. You have the
right to be angry. It's better to get even." When those thoughts go through
your head, realize they are not yours unless you dwell on them. When you
mull those thoughts over in your head and stir up feelings, you have made
them your thoughts.
Job 6:20 They are
disappointed because they were confident;
Prov 15:18 A wrathful man
stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger allays contention.
Prov 16:32 He who is slow
to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who
takes a city.
Prov 19:11 The discretion
of a man makes him slow to anger, And his glory is to overlook a
Mat 6:12-15 And forgive us
our debts, As we forgive our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation,
But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and
the glory forever. Amen. "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you. "But if you do not forgive men their
trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Luke 23:34 Then Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what
James 4:7-8 Therefore
submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God
and He will draw near to you.
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