All through scripture it says you should love others as you love yourself. It does not say more than yourself or less than yourself. I says the same as you love yourself.

Love should be unconditional. If you put conditions on yourself, how can you not put conditions on others

IE: If you are cold, put on a coat and give one to someone who does not have one. If you bandage yourself when you are hurt, bandage someone else when they are hurt. If you eat when you are hungry, feed a person who has no food when they are hungry. If you have shelter, help someone else find shelter. If you have money, share with someone in need of money. If you are emotionally stable, comfort & encourage someone who is not.

If you don't have any of the above, you should not expect yourself to share what you do not have. Loving yourself would be to earn a living so you can help yourself and someone else.
1 Th 4:11, 12 that you also aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, that you may walk properly toward those who are outside, and that you may lack nothing.

Do you want someone to judge you? Then why do you judge others. Part of love is being non-judgmental.
Mat 7:1,2 "Judge not, that you be not judged. "For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.

In other words: Do unto others as you would have them do for you.
Mat 7:12 "Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

James 4:11, 12 Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother, speaks evil of the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is one Lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy. Who are you to judge another?

This means we are not to judge people who are homeless or who are on disability. We have no clue why they are where they are in life. Only God knows the pain and suffering they may have: be it physical, mental or emotional.

God may have put them in our path just to see if we would help them or not. Don't judge, Help.

Phil 2:12 Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling;

Since God is love, He is more interested in relationships than anything else.
1 John 4:8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
1 John 4:16 And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.

Love yourself so you can love others.